I’ve recently installed gnome onto a headless debian 12 server at my home. I also enabled Gnome remote desktop by temporarily hooking up a monitor and setting it up through the GUI. I also needed to delete the /etc/network/interfaces file to get networking working again after installing Gnome. At this point, all seems to be working well - except that I can’t actually get connected from RDC in Windows (or anything else) to gnome remote desktop on the server. I’m not getting anything returned with sudo ss -tulwn | grep 3389 (according to this netstat should be returning something on 3389, but since netstat is deprecated I’m using ss instead - I think this shows the problem but not sure what to do about it, xrdp isn’t and never was installed so the solution there isn’t helping) and also getting WARNING: TCP connect to (192.168.1.103 : 3389) failed with Test-NetConnection -ComputerName 192.168.1.103 -Port 3389 from Windows.
I’m getting this response from systemctl --user status gnome-remote-desktop.service
● gnome-remote-desktop.service - GNOME Remote Desktop
Loaded: loaded (/usr/lib/systemd/user/gnome-remote-desktop.service; enabled; preset: enabled)
Active: active (running) since Fri 2025-10-03 13:17:37 CDT; 4s ago
Main PID: 240892 (gnome-remote-de)
Tasks: 5 (limit: 57326)
Memory: 5.3M
CPU: 82ms
CGroup: /user.slice/user-1000.slice/user@1000.service/app.slice/gnome-remote-desktop.service
└─240892 /usr/libexec/gnome-remote-desktop-daemonOct 03 13:17:37 frigate systemd[235386]: Starting gnome-remote-desktop.service - GNOME Remote Desktop…
Oct 03 13:17:37 frigate systemd[235386]: Started gnome-remote-desktop.service - GNOME Remote Desktop.
Any ideas on what I’m missing here? Thanks!